Four days ago I turned 25 years old! And I noticed (even before my birthday) the curiosity of others and hope from some of why I do not have a special guy friend aka a boyfriend and as I lay down on April 23rd, 2014 I had this thought, "Is my singleness beginning to bother or offend others?" I mean, it is my singleness after all. Now I know that all the people who have asked or wished or hope on my behalf is doing it out of good will, but sitting at my birthday table and hearing words like "I can't wait until I'm celebrating with you and your husband" tends to steal from that special moment in the present (Because I don't have a husband right now, it's just me) and it made me wonder if being alone, for the time being, leaves a bad taste in other's mouths.
I think many singles would be so okay with their singleness season if there weren't so many voices echoing future statements like that. And trust me I get it, moms want to see their daughters or sons get married and friends want to see you happy in that special relationship, but my answer to all of this questioning is found in Psalm 84:11, "For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor, no good thing does He withhold from those whose walk is blameless." God said He would not withhold any good thing from me and I'm a good thing to my future spouse just as he will be a good thing to me (Check out Genesis 2:18). So if we have not yet met then me or him are not yet a good thing to each other. Oh, the time will come (If you have a desire to be married and God's will for your life is marriage) that you two will be a good to each other and you won't even know how this person came in your life and BOOM!
So my advice to myself and to you all who are single:
-Don't force it, let the Lord lead you and seriously you have plenty of time. (Even if you think I'm (fill in the blank age) and my plan was to be married and have (this amount) of kids). Well, throw away your little plan, God is faithful and His plan will prevail and it's actually the better, more fulfilling plan for your life.-Find a fun and funny answer to give to friends and family when they asked about your relationship status. Mine are kind of spontaneous to the moment but they work. It's not my job to "find me a boyfriend". My God is the ultimate matchmaker.
- Do I dare say, Don't think about it (even when everyone is else is thinking it for you). I fell in the trap of over thinking my singleness and becoming curious like the others to why I'm still single and is there something wrong with me? Well, over thinking about anything is not good. So think about and do something else. One of the things I love to do is volunteer and when I am volunteering and putting others before me, I am not thinking about single stuff. When I am working on something (at work or at home), I am not thinking about the pros and cons of being single. So get out and do something.
I pray this help someone or at least made you laugh a little. God is faithful, you are not forgotten and remember Jesus is our first Bridegroom. Have a great week!
